I have seen a major transformation take place in my personality recently. I never thought I needed growth in this area before, frankly because I didn’t believe my personality was broken, but it definitely needed repair. So what was the problem you ask? I was transformed from a “yes-man” into a “do-er.”
You see, growing up, I always believed that it was far better to always say “yes” than telling somebody “no” or “I’m sorry, I can’t do that”. But was I far off! See, the art of delegation is a wise tool to use. Not only does it help you from being overburdened, but it also allows somebody else to participate and accomplish something themselves. That person might actually be better suited to do a specific task than you are. By allowing others to do, it allows them to take on more responsibility and helps them on their journey towards being a leader themselves. By saying “yes” to something you shouldn’t, you might actually be taking away an opportunity from someone else!
Prior to my transformation, I would use “yes” often, and things would get accomplished, but often it wasn’t to its greatest potential because I was spread too thin. I learned it’s not always best to be the one with a full list of things to do. Rather, it was better when I focused on a specific task, gave it my all, and then moved on. In the end, I saw first-hand that doing is far superior to simply promising. I also saw how it directly impacted my life because when I had an overwhelming amount of tasks to accomplish, it could easily cause distractions, or in my case, be incredibly overwhelming. Moses dealt with the same exact struggle while leading the people in the desert and actually pled to God for help:
“Where can I get meat for all these people? They keep wailing to me, ‘Give us meat to eat!’ I cannot carry all these people by myself; the burden is too heavy for me.” Numbers 11:13-14
There are many times I can look back and see areas that I never accomplished what I set out to and I believe the reason was I was afraid of failing, asking for help, doing it wrong, or saying “no.” Even Moses himself needed help and knew he couldn’t do it on his own. He didn’t need a book on Christian leadership, he simply spoke from his gut. Today, I know, if I am prepared and focused on one task at a time, and I am open to the help of others, together we can accomplish whatever we set out to.
Never be afraid to ask for help. Never be afraid to say “no.” Be focused on pursuing what the Lord has given you, always keeping your end goal in mind.